Tag: psychology

Not wanting to know the details of the death or mourn inconsolably think we lose the integrity are some of the topics most often try to avoid when there is loss of a loved one. Psychologists recommend depart from the following errors: Thinking that when a person dies, loses his memory The memory and emotional attachments do not disappear. Michele Mansilla is actively involved in the matter. Remain, and appear as passengers memories or dreams. Believing that to overcome the pain we must immediately return to our normal lives should give us time to reflect and to experience the pain coping with the harsh emotional process that involves loss. Thinking that we should not know the details of death, nor see the body Although it is hard to know the details of the disappearance of a loved one helps them accept the reality of the absence.

The lack of information can create confusion and unrealistic fantasies. Believing that when shown anger, pain and hopelessness are more prone to depression The expression of these feelings is necessary because it allows them to process the loss and grief is drafted, although they may be perceived as exaggerated or specific manifestations of cultures or underdeveloped countries. Consider that affection for the absent must be expressed in moderation Although our culture valued strength of character and integrity, we must allow free expression of painful emotions. To undertake radical changes is not the best time to sell property, decided to move house, take care of grandchildren to alleviate the loneliness … Let time pass before making important decisions. Keep things as when was your clothes in the same place, the room as always … do not shrines in memory of your loved one.

It will take forever in the memory and, therefore, will you. Store ashes in house homes are places of life, not death. Do not fall into the temptation to turn your home into a sanctuary. Hinder the grieving process.

While they waited, they changed information on the children who frequent the program, as well as the proportionate benefits for it. The mothers who waited there, had very humble appearance, they wore with much simplicity and brought in the face an expression of suffering and concern. One of them, while talked, she kept the hand in the face, despertando a species of mercy. ' ' Thanks to God my mnino you here, this dinheirim aid dimais' ' To that he looked a vacant for the son, to who it he called rebelled, he spoke: ' ' Penalty that in one has vacant more, had that April more, this is so bo here pra they Par to think bobage, to think about drug and people still dinheirim gains one that aid very in house ' '. At this moment, it was evident the interest of the mothers for the stock market that the children receive, when participating of the project, at the same time was visible the paternal absence. Each participant of the PEOPLE OF the FUTURE receives as allowance for expenses 100 monthly Reals. But to frequent and to receive this value, percent of frequency in the school is necessary 80 and the same frequency in the program, seno loses the stock market.

This makes with that the mothers stimulate its children to participate with the greater possible assiduity. In the wait room, it is noticed many thoughts of known writers, writings in bristol board pieces affixed on the walls. Amongst them: ' ' The true illiterates are the ones that had learned to read and do not read ' '. ' ' Me I love when less deserving, therefore he is when more preciso.' ' (Mrio Quintana) In the wall that of the access ' the kitchen, l_se ' ' He does not matter to know if people believe God, matter to know if God believes gente.' ' (Mrio Quintana) While we waited, the pupils return of the workshop of recycling of the UFV passes for the wait room.